I am Cylan

Dying hopeless end!

2008-03-15T14:52:00.005+08:00

You've spent your life waiting
for the person in your life
to call
to come home
to love you.
You wait in the void
thinking
tomorrow will change,
express the love
sweep you up
& love you.
And so pass years
until you too
show blank emotion.
And you too
feel nothing.

Twelve nights in another town
waiting
still waiting
for the phone to ring.
Waiting for the letter of love
to arrive.
Wasn't that song
'Still Waiting After All These Years'.

It's true and hurts
if the judgement clear path.
Maybe you will never be there
with wide arms
to swing me into the
heart
of waiting lust of hope.
GOT IT!

Anyone falling in love?

2007-06-12T12:25:00.000+08:00

What is going on these days?I met my long time football friend yesterday and we had this issue that is really bugging me.We were talking about the difference of feelings (of others') against people who fall in love when they are young compared to the people who fall in love when they are not that young anymore. I surprised myself at the disagreement with his views. I could smell the air of disgust in the his voice when he voiced out his dismay in having to learn about the ability of the not so young people to fall in love.
I should think it is a very private right to fall in love. Love knows no age limit. Love knows no qualifications. Love is such a fantastic feeling God chooses its receipient. Love is such a rich feeling anyone could have without having to worry whether one can afford it or not. Love and kindness is the most difficult 'thing' to give away, for it is always returned if one gives it unconditionally. For those souls who cannot bring oneself to express love, just a polite reminder: take effort if you must, learn to express your love before it is too late. For love is not to be kept to oneself but to let it loose for others lucky enough to catch them! Very importantly, don't worry about what others may think of you when they know you are falling in love. Don't be scared to fall in love. People don't DECIDE to love. They just FALL in love.GOT IT!

21st century elements.....

2007-05-17T08:41:00.000+08:00

Here's my 21 ingredients in life should be......

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don'thave much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the onlyway to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer,smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve greatrisk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others;and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate stepsto correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.GOT IT!

Boss not around...?

2007-05-07T14:19:00.000+08:00

What would you feel when boss is not in? Well, I find some difference in my colleagues when boss is not in. They chat long on phone, wondering around for awhile, everyone seems happy and chatting. Some felt relieved as there will be no ‘intercom’ from boss asking this, that, this and that. It is the feeling of supervision I guess? No one is there to check on you and keep an eye on you. Know what? Some colleague always asked, ‘When boss got meeting? What time?Where is he/she?And even being nice to his/her personal assistant. Did you ever cross this mis- feeling?Did you did the same as well? What do you feel when boss is not around? Bosses what do you think?Please show some comments........GOT IT!

Cho Seung Hui...

2007-04-21T09:32:00.000+08:00

Death is always tragic. But when a person chooses to end their own life, the tragedy is even greater. The saddest part of suicide is that it could have been prevented, if only someone had heard the cry for help. Suicide is a subject that people often feel uncomfortable talking about, but it is something that shouldn’t be ignored.
When someone ends their life, the biggest question of those left behind is “Why?”. There is no one single reason, but the helplessness and hopelessness that leads to suicide can be caused by many factors such as depression, family problems, pressure to succeed and low self-esteem.
The majority of people who kill themselves don’t actually want to die, but they see suicide as the only way to end their emotional pain. Facts reveal that in most completed suicides, the person has discussed their suicidal thoughts or plans with someone. Obviously, not all suicides are preventable. But being able to recognize when someone needs help, could save a life.
It is important to know that if someone is depressed and showing suicidal tendencies, something as seemingly insignificant as an argument or break-up or more worst complete hated from the society,feeling neglected from mankind could be enough to tip them over the edge. Believe what they say. The idea that if someone voices their intentions to you then they’re just seeking attention is a complete myth. If you don’t take them seriously you could be missing their cry for help.He did reach-out for help but.........I personally grace my blog with the heart warming thoughts to the family of Cho Seung Hui and the 32 victims.May their souls rest in peace.

What happen to him?
What was going through he's mind?
What have we done to help him?
What was he's motive?
Was he to blame for what he did?
Was the 32 victims faith of being in wrong place in wrong time?
What can we do to prevent this from happening again?

WHO TO BLAME?
Cho Seung Hui or Society?
Give me your thoughts......GOT IT!

Spending Spree

2007-04-19T10:53:00.000+08:00

Many times we heard and experience that money is not enough in our life.What say you?Do you feel the same?But, how much is enough? A rich man will eventually blurted out that they don't have enough to spend too.
During a conversation with friends recently, I told him that switching from one job to another job will not help save more money should one does not implant saving habit in their life. Maybe you will get better income; better promotion and eventually, your lifestyle will improve. But, I always believe that the more income you earn the more money one will spend.Do you agree?
My previous boss use to advice us to set aside some percentage of our income for saving. He added that one should have saving at least 6 months of salary. The reason is should you are jobless one day; you still have this income to cover for the next 6 month while looking for other job. I agree with him.
A lot of people tend to have low money management. They will get their pay, paid up everything and should any balance, they consider it as saving. But, sad to say that a lot of people will start to get "itchy" when they realize they still have balance of money and hence will spend it all to get what they want, as their next income is coming.I'm sure you feel the same too.
High commitment is always on the top of the list of reasons for “not enough money” symptom. With house, car, insurance to pay up for, they will be left with little once the income was out. They will be waiting for next month pay again as the clock ticks.
Though all the above can be consider a basic wants, one should buy within their mean. Don’t think that things will eventually improve in times to come (e.g. your pay will increase in year to come).Hey dude: You never know what will happen within the next second.
A rich “appearance” (filthy mansion, imported cars, branded clothing) will only make you look rich, but, with no saving, will tend to be worrying for you life. Don’t be surprise to see that a low income earner will have bulky bank account than majority of high income earner.
So, start planning your expenses now. Well, easier said than to be done, try to apply this simple principle in your life- Buy whatever you think you SHOULD buy, not whatever you WANT to buy. Hence, it will more or less improve your spending pattern..GOT IT!

Faith

2007-04-11T15:38:00.000+08:00

Commonly, many people attempt suicidal because the failure they face in their life and this is because they don’t have an optimistic outlook on their life and also don’t believe in faith. According to a dictionary, the word ‘faith’ means strong belief, unquestioning confidence, the act of putting one’s faith in God and belief in the divine truth beyond proof. Faith makes one believe that tomorrow will be a better day and this is what modern day advocate as positive thinking. If you believe in faith you’ll definitely not allow yourselves to be depressed for long. Whatever our difficulties, we should not allow ourselves to be weakened by emotion. We should have faith to face our obstacles in a ‘manly’ way without allowing those difficulties to shatter our mental balance. Some people attempt suicide just because they fail in so many ways that depressed them. Faith is that which will see us through a failure. Did you ever hear before the old people commonly say that ‘when one door closes, another will open’? We have to go on living and we cannot let the problems drag us down. We have to believe that there is a sun light at the earth. As a person we need to believe in faith because this belief will keep us away from the influence of negative elements such as suicidal. An advice for people who try to attempt this sin, you need to be strong and don’t ever do something stupid such as suicidal. Think positively and be optimistic in any ways.....Hey this is life,there is ups and downs so we need to design it and make it our life.GOT IT!

Be yourself Be genuine

2007-04-10T11:12:00.000+08:00

Was wondering myself yesterday while driving back from work....As a man thinks,How do I feel about myself?And how do you feel about yourself? Ask anyone that question & you would probably be getting a lot of negative feedbacks. In today's materialistic & competitive society, almost everyone strives out aggresively to one another just to be the best. Caught up in the rat-race of life, most end up being disatisfaction or incomplete with themselves. Once in awhile, we should take the time to get to know ourselves better. To appreciate the abilities & talents we have been blessed with. Instead of being eaten up by envy & jealousy, we should learn to be contented with the qualities we possess. We should realized that each individual is unique & special. We all exist for a specific purpose in this life, be it great or small. Therefore, no one on this earth can be considered insignificant or unimportant. If we choose to view life as a glass half-full, we may actually feel better about ourselves. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we should learn to be thankful for what we have. Sure, there is no harm in self-improvement, but not to the extent that we forget who we truly are inside or where we came from our grass roots. We may never be as rich, successful or influential as some are & the grass may appear to be greener on the other side. But at the end of the day, we should be glad that we have been given a chance to live, & live each day to the fullest and be with people who care and love of what you are and not who they aspect you to be.GOT IT!

Waiting for you.WHO?

2007-04-06T13:54:00.000+08:00

Appreaciate your love one when they are still alive. This is what I always advice the people around me. Many of those who already started to work (especially those from out-station) reduce their time of going back to pay a visit to their parents.
Should you have something to do for your parents, do it now. Never wait till tomorow as there are possibilities it won't come. We never know what will happen in the next second. Don't regret things that can be done earlier.
Many people making excuses such as they are very busy with their work. There was once a friend ask me. Should there are RM1 million to be collected tomorrow somewhere far away (and you are busy), will you go as well? That means it was just a sincererity of someone heart. If you have the guts, you will a way.
Therefore, stop making excuses. Your parents are waiting for you to go back each day. Though they may say it doesnt matter if you are busy, but, deep in their heart they really want you to be by their side.Is that really hard for us to do...I'll leave it to you'll to decide but trust me...I lost my dad in 2004 and just spent time the last 1 year with him as I was working abroad.Don't do the mistake I did.GOT IT!

Design your journey

2007-04-05T13:49:00.000+08:00

Life can be complicated than you ever expected it to be.It's either we live with it or either design it to be in our path.The choice is within our reach.Do make the wise move,so to make life simple, here are 10 essential steps I personaly feels that it contributes to my art of living :

1. Learn to make up your mind. Fast.
2. Learn to not nag at others.
3. Choose the best option in whatever decision you are about to make.
4. Do not feel remorseful/regretful after making a decision.
5. Forgive others. This is the true meaning of PEACE.
6. Be true to yourself and to the people around you.
7. Love the people you know as if it's the last day on earth for you.
8. Take pride in everything you do.
9. Have faith in God. God helps those who help themselves. Remember.
10. Life is like a piano, what you get out of it, depends on how you play it.

We play the music not the music play us.GOT IT!

Assumptions

2007-04-04T10:52:00.000+08:00

Everybody assumes, but the level of assumptions each and everyone of us make difference from one person to the other. Some assumes on almost everything while others assumes to a certain extent. Honestly, assuming is not a good act but somehow many of us are doing it.
Why? We assume just because we are lazy or take for granted to ask and approach the person involve and instead we avoid issues and questions that arise in our head. Therefore, we assumed
Assumptions can create misunderstanding or even hatred between two individuals, be it colleagues, family members or even best friends. They just assume that they know what the other is thinking. As a result, assumption can create a stir between two close bond, even it means that they know each other for ages.
We might not be able to stop assuming stuff about people but we might keep it at a minimal because the effect of assuming can sometimes be serious and maybe at one stage, it can end a relationship of two people for good. So, try not to assume instead approach and ask!Is that too much to ask?Open yourself to society since it's a free world.GOT IT!

Work..?Live..?Work..?Live..?

2007-03-28T12:18:00.000+08:00

Have you ever ponder whether you work to live Or live to work?

Well, please let me put it in 3 simple way to help you solve this problem.

1) Negative approach- If you don't work, you can't live or If you don't live and you don't have to work.
2) Positive approach- If you work, you live or if you live means you need to work.
3) Let's combine the negative & positive approach.Well, If you live, you work. If you don't work, you can't live or If you work, you live.
If you don't live, you don't have to work.Hence, work & life come together.
So, don't complain whenever you have work to do. You should be grateful that you are alive. Stay active!GOT IT!

My Celebrity Look-alikes

2007-03-23T11:28:00.001+08:00

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Self-esteem

2007-03-22T11:42:00.000+08:00

Self-esteem is another channel to personal development and revolution. Life begins to take on greater splendor as we open up and be pleased about ourselves. By loving and appreciating ourselves, we gain an acceptance of others. Indulging in true self-esteem, we generate wonderful outcome. We grow to be happier, healthier and make a more significant contribution in life.
We always aspired to change for betterment, and when we change, everything around us will start to move too. The value we place on ourselves is better known as the self-esteem. There is always sunshine, only we must do our part. Simple things to do everyday such as thanking yourself whenever we feel great of ourself improvement.Motivate ourself by waking up with positif and mind blowing attitude towards surviving the day and end of the day by saying to ourself.... I've done well,let's hope tomorrow will be better than today.Congratulation!GOT IT!

Appreciation

2007-03-21T11:49:00.000+08:00

I think the above is a value we have lost. Our society these days take things for granted, or worse yet, we overpraise someone else in front of the people we take for granted.
Many of us in the younger generation are actually victims of this tragic loss. We tend to value our friends more than our parents and to make it worse we tell it to our parents' faces in the heat of the moment or even through our conduct by our inclination to spend more time with our friends rather than our parents.
Actually it hurts a lot. I recently was the recipient of such treatment. For example, I did so much for a friend but the friend turns round and instead of giving a sincere thanks, it's a thanks BUT "this thing went wrong, another thing wasn't satisfactory", whether or not I was the cause of it, it shows that my friend was not 100% satisfied. Where else that same friend starts praising another person in front of me who did the same thing for the friend, with actually even more flaws, but was put up on a high pedestal.
Putting it into the context of our parents. Many might agree we love our parents at least but then we start complaining about how they don't give us enough freedom, they are partial, etc. Where else we then praise other people's parents how they are so nice, so generous to their kids etc.
It hurts. I just hope and pray that we will begin to see our own flaws and change our ways. I am learning too. Let us give recognition where it's due and do it sincerely with no "buts" and with tact.GOT IT!

Inner strength

2007-03-20T14:28:00.000+08:00

How many of us are learning through experience? Some people say, when you experience it, you'll only know. For example, if you are a fast driver, and you happened to witness a bad accident on a road, I bet you'll drive slower for the rest of that day. BUT question is... for HOW long? Probably few days later or a week later, you'll get back to old self. Am I right? How strong are your will power to learn that?
Another example, you never exercise,But you are gaining weight and you are planning to do jogging to lose weight. First few days, you are very excited to jog every morning. Then, let's say after a week, you might say, "OK...Today I need to cancel my jogging because need rest tomorrow continue." BUT question is, are you going to continue tomorrow? How many of you faced these type of situation before?It all comes to your will power and your determination to acomplish the task you set. For some who plan to make that a daily task, this is a tough test of your will power. Try this, do it and set for certain days for you to commit without failure consecutively. You will then automatically do it without you reminding yourself you need to do that task daily. Lets say 30 days is a must for you to accomplish your task.....Then stick to it and never....I mean never stop till 30 days.Congratulation!You're Winner.GOT IT!

Workplace

2007-03-19T12:30:00.000+08:00

Well this is something we feel the real nature of a good or bad working enviroment.
The workplace should be where business takes place, not a war zone. Yet many times workers are at odds with co-workers; those on a low rung of the company ladder feel mistreated by those on the top rungs; some workers waste time and raise blood pressures of others with soliciting funds for numerous reasons; some people use the time of others to visit or gossip, causing a loss of productivity and frustration on the part of the person trying to work.
Some things can be 'fixed' only by a person changing employment, but some companies and people have found solutions for a few problems. Guidelines written by a panel of employees and management decided what gifts would be given when. When an member of the company married, a present went from all the business (owners could and often did send something privately as did close friends); the birth of a child received the same kind of major gift. If an employee or close family member died, a plant or flowers was sent. Everything that required a gift or flowers or plants was covered. Solicitations weren't discouraged; they were prohibited.
If an employee's child needed to raise money for school, catalogues and brochures could be left on one table in the break room, but parents could not contact any one directly. Someone interested could and would place an order and leave it in the parent's mail box.
What if the time-stealer is a supervisor, though? Then hopefully the invitation to visit at lunch or on break, when used multiple times, will give the supervisor the idea that the employee really does want to work.
However, at times the only solution for finding peace in the workplace, rather than starting a war, is to move on to other employment.What you think?Life goes on.GOT IT!

I am Cylan

2007-03-17T11:03:00.000+08:00

Well being aware from not blogging for sometime had force me to realize something.
Had the golden moment of silent and peace away from this global warnings to find the real me.

WHO AM I?

I am good person.
I have integrity.
I do what is ethically right and good.
Whatever life puts before me will be useful experience that will make me stronger, wiser, and more tolerant.
I am strong enough to understand and make allowances for other people's weaknesses, and their behaviour towards me. Other people's behaviour is about them, not me.
I focus on the joy of living my life and helping others where and when I can.
I am what I eat and drink, so I eat and drink good things.
I am what I watch and play and listen, so I watch and play and listen to good positive things.
I take exercise which I enjoy. I walk when I don't need to drive or take the bus or train.
I smile and laugh whenever I can - life is good - getting caught in the rain reminds me that it is good to be alive to feel it.
I forgive other people. Deep down everyone is a good person, just like me.
I am a compassionate and loving, caring person.
I am a good person.
I am Cylan.................................GOT IT!

Balance your LIFE!

2007-02-17T09:48:00.000+08:00

We often get too busy and enter into the timeless zone where we could even forget about fulfilling our basic needs and the reason behind why we entered the busy zone.

In this digital and wireless world, we often fall into the “busy zone” always. The common factor for most us is due to our job. We often get carried away with our tasks given to us by the organization. However in order to prosper and secure the future well, most of us tend to go for the “extra mile” in our job scope.

The attitude of giving more than what our job scope requires is something to be praised. However when we do this constantly for a long period, we will lose the “balance” in our life and it is certainly deceiving the purpose.

There are people who work extra 6-8 hours daily than the required hours. It is true that in order to achieve certain goals, we must sacrifice our time and energy but when sacrifice becomes too frequent and rigid, we might achieve our materialistic goals but at the same time we could lose most of the important elements in our life.

This unbalanced life could lead to so many negative outcomes. Mainly we might be leading to an unhealthy lifestyle because we do not have the time for exercise since most of the time is spent on job. Secondly we will lose our valuable friends, family and our loved ones because again we do not have the time to spend with them.

Besides that, our growth in the aspect of learning and development outside our field of work may get diminished due to insufficient time. This insufficiency of time occurs because most of the time is spent on our job till some of us do not even have the time to read newspaper. The above mentioned issues are the some of the contributing factors that is leading most of our life to an unbalanced life.

Most of us have the “mentality” saying that “we must work hard to the maximum now but relax and have a good happy time with our family, friends and loved ones one day probably in five or ten years time when we have the all the money, time and status. At this juncture I have recalled a true story of a businessman who attended a business seminar organized by a local psychologist cum business trainer. During the seminar, the psychologist requested all the participants to point down techniques and methods they would take to become a multi-millionaire in ten years time. As requested all the participant wrote down their methods but the methods brought down by one particular businessman at that time caught the attention of the psychologist. This particular participant said that “In order for me to become a multi-millionaire, I would work hard day and night for the next ten years. In this period I would not spend time with my family, friends and relatives. I would not go for any vacation or get indulged in any type of entertainment. Basically I will only work, work and work in order for me to become a multi-millionaire.

After ten years of hard work, I will become a multi millionaire. Therefore I will spend all the time with my family, friends and I will take my time off just to happily enjoy my life.”

After listening to the businessman, the psychologist only asked him one question. ”Sir, can you give me a guarantee letter saying that you will be alive when you wake every morning for the next ten years and I would also like to follow your plan.” The question triggered the participant to realise so many things. Later the psychologist explained to him that if he is just going to work without a stop for the next ten years, first he would lose his family, friends and relatives. Second he might get ill both mentally and physically. What is the point if you have all the money status, success and time but there is no value for it? In fact, it will be a failure because the reason which is to attain happiness through the ten years of non- stop hard work will be impossible.

The truth is not many have realised that there is no guarantee for even the next minute of our life. Our life in this world may end at anytime and this is an inevitable issue.

Therefore work hard in any job you might be working at but always remember to balance up your life because overtime spent on any aspect of our life will lead to deterioration in the balance cycle. Lastly, we should keep in our mind that “happiness is a journey, not destination” and cherish every second of your life.GOT IT!

Boss ohh......BOSS!

2007-02-12T14:21:00.000+08:00

In a recent spate of problems shrouding a municipality, we need to re-check the position of the boss of the organization.
As a boss, you are the head of an organization. You have the power and the position to make decisions that will make or break the organization. And because you have that power, it comes with great responsibility. You shoulder the burden of being accountable of anything your subordinates do. Not only that, you have to be aware of everything that your employees do or don’t do. Even though you have departments who run their designated operations, you have a duty to monitor not one, but all of them. You shouldn’t expect everything to be at your fingertips delivered by the mole every morning; instead you should go to the ground and get the hidden information yourself.
There is no reason why a boss doesn’t know the dealings of the subordinates with a third party which concerns the organization. In the corporate world, this could be defined as a breach of trust and when the employee is caught, he would be terminated. There is no such thing as leniency as to just suspend or transfer him to another department. Once this issue is raised, the employee’s loyalty is in question. There should be no difference between a corporate organization and a government. Transparency is paramount and it is the essence of a successful corporation. Bosses have to be tough on this. Bosses should emulate the leadership skills of Donald Trump and others great leaders. Trump has no hesitations in making the final say to everything he does. He is definite and he knows everything that happens in every property and businesses he owns. In a government body, you are too hired and paid accordingly. You have a job to do and you should do it to the best of your abilities. If you are innocent in any allegedly dubious activities, defend yourself outright with proof. Do not keep quiet as this is a window of opportunity for your opponents to spark your downfall. A good boss is a verbal and action oriented intellectual, not a quiet person who waits for things to fall into his lap and pass by. So, to every boss out there, be the boss you are supposed to be and not a dumb ass.GOT IT!

Better person

2007-02-06T09:12:00.000+08:00

Everyone is different and demand high level of satisfaction in certain circumstances. However, it is really crucial for us to have higher demand on ourselves so that we can improve gradually if not tremendously.Working while studying in terms has opened up a lot of oppoturnities for us to work with various kind of people in a group. While excellent team work spirit is the crux for splendid products, in my opinion, moving in the same pace to pursue the same target is important too.I have encountered various situations when I was not moving in the same pace as the others. I'm not a perfectionist, but I always demand something better. In my opinion, if someone tells you that he had done his 100%, I firmly believe that he can actually provide me with 150%.I faced no problem when I was the leader of the team. However, it is another story when other becomes the leader. Conflicts are just inevitable when you have a leader whom is being easily contented and group members whom think they can achieve something better.The secret why a person can improve himself or herself continuously is the everlasting urge to become a better person. Some people will choose to stay in their comfort zone and be very satisfied with what they are blessed with whilst some people are chasing for something better.My predecessor had always advised us to keep improving ourselves as to stay competitive in the globalization trend. I just couldn't see the point for people around me to feel satisfied when they actually can perform better. No matter what they choose, I'll always prefer to move forward and become a better human being.GOT IT!

What went wrong?

2007-02-05T11:52:00.000+08:00

Filial piety used to be one of the main virtues upheld in our Asian culture. However, it is sad to say that in our modern society, respect & love for our elderly parents is slowly decreasing. I 've have heard of countless incidences where an ailing parent is left by his or her children to suffer alone in a government hospital. And what about the old folks who stand by the entrances of nursing homes, waiting for their children to come take them home. How is it possible that any child can be as ungrateful & inhumane as to leave his or her parent to fate, without having second thoughts? Has materialism & immorality become such a dominant part of our lives till we have forsakened every bit of our conscience?In this era, not only are the elderly abandoned, young children are as well. Numerous reports of the discovery of a baby amongst heaps of rubbish or stuffed in a duffel bag & left on a bench makes me shake my head in sadness. To a lesser extent, I hear of young parents who leave their children to the care of babysitters for several days & only visit their children on weekends, They are ready to devote their lives to work & ambition while their family's welfare takes a back seat. With morality headed downhill, more & more family units are breaking up with divorce rates soaring not just in the West but in the Asian society as well. The sacredness of marriage has been tarnished & the vow 'till death do us part' carries no more weight. Lust has replaced love in these days where people seek only to satisfy their selfish desires & are unwilling to work towards building strong & stable relationships. What kind of madness has taken over the society of today? Have we been blinded by our own selfish wants & needs that we readily abandon our parents who have raised us & forsake our own children? Let there not be a day when family love ceases to exist. Worse still, I hope we will never live to see the day when the word 'family' becomes obsolete. Where joy & happiness in a household becomes a distant dream. Let us not live to see that day come to being.GOT IT!

Is there really a life?

2007-02-02T12:41:00.000+08:00

Why do we need to study? – To earn us a place in the working industry.
Why do we need to work? – So that we’ll get paid handsomely.
Why do we need money? – So that we can survive this life
Why do we need to survive this life? …

Some people may answer ‘because God gave us life’. But many didn’t have to answer to this question.

If studying up to degree level can ‘book’ us a good position in the working world, why are there so many unemployed graduates? And in many cases, Masters Graduates had to lie in their resumes that they only had a degree in hand, simply because ‘their qualification is too high for the position’. So is it true that the higher your education level, the better job you’ll get?

And who said that we’ll get paid handsomely if we work smart and hard enough? Everything seemed to have an increase in price, except for salaries. This issue had been brought up many times, especially when times are hard to maintain. Are we really getting what we are worth?

No money no talk. True enough, without money, we are unlikely to survive well in this world. But what’s really the true meaning of survival? Sitting there, reading the newspaper, knowing how some countries are badly hit by disasters, how the society had changed for the worse… Is this what we are living for? Is this the reason why we want to survive this life? To see all sorts of negativity happening every day?
Do we want to live this life just because we are given life, or is there more to it? What’s the purpose of life? It’s something I’m always in search for the answer. Perhaps, somebody can enlighten me?GOT IT!

Gift of Humanity

2007-02-01T11:51:00.000+08:00

The death of a love one can be a very traumatic experience for some of us. Especially if their demise was sudden or unexpected. Many of us would be haunted by memories of our dearly departed love ones. Articles in our home & just about any little thing triggers flash backs of happy moments we shared with them while they were yet alive.It is therefore very inspiring when we read about family members who are strong enough to rise above their sorrow & actually contribute to the needs of society despite their loss. Several instances which were reported in the news where the parents of children who had been declared clinically brain-dead making organ donations to the medical field. Their selflessness has thus resulted in lives being saved as the organs are transplanted into the bodies of severely ill patients. Their courage & sheer determination to rise above their sorrow has given many ailing patients a new breath of life.Even in the face of death, these admirable citizens have managed to make a priceless difference in the lives of others. Their generous gift has renewed our faith in the goodness of humanity. Even though they may no longer walk among us who are alive, they leave an enduring memory in the lives of those that they have saved & touched, in so many ways.Hey,i'm proud to say that i'm one of them that donated every single body parts of mine.My dad did the same humanity gift. A friend of mine once said that it is not the dead who suffer, but those who live to moan their death who do. However, I am certain, that even in these darkest hours, the comfort of knowing that their deaths have not been in vain will lessen the pain endured by those who survive them.GOT IT!

What makes a true friend?

2007-01-29T13:51:00.000+08:00

Nowadays, the word 'friend' is often spoken lightly & it's value has diminished. Many of us will have the opportunity of making many friends throughout our lifetime but, how can we tell a true friend from a false one? Allow me to express my personal view regarding this matter. A true friend always does the following:

1: F-orgives as well as forgets mistakes made in the past. He does not bring up or harp on certain issues that may have cropped up throughout the course of our friendship. A true friend does not harbor any ill-feeling or resentment towards us. He is also willing to overlook our weaknesses & accepts us for who we are.
2. R-espects us as well as our opinions. A good companion will never seek to belittle or embarass us. A true friend will also respect our point of view & is never rude or conceited whenever he associates with us. We will always feel accepted by him.
3. I-nspires & motivates us to better ourselves in all our endevours. A good friend will always provide us with support & encouragement whenever we face challenges in life. A true fellow comrade will bring out the best in us, cheering us on in all of our pursuits & ambitions.
4. E-mpathizes with us in the face of hardship & sorrow. He is willing to share our unhappiness & avails help to us in any possible way. A true friend shows understanding & support in times of difficulty. He will lend a listening ear & a shoulder to cry on at all times.
5.N-otices our moods & temperament. A true friend will always know when to say the right thing at the right time. He knows or at least takes the trouble to find out how we are getting along & is sensitive towards our needs & feelings.
6. D-efends us in the face of persecution & accusations. Remember, a true friend is always on our side. He will never betray us in any way or join in spreading notorious gossips about us behind our back. He sticks by us through thick & thin. A good friend will never back-bite us. A friend in need is a friend indeed!
A friend who is dependable & trustworthy is one who:

F-orgives
R-espects
I-nspires
E-mpathizes
N-otices
D-efends

GOT IT!

Take a break

2007-01-24T11:17:00.000+08:00

In our modern day society, many of us are subjected to pressure in every aspect of our lives, be it our personal or work life. As the stress level in us escalates, we do not seek to lessen it but instead continue to push ourselves to the brink until we finally reach the breaking point where everything falls to pieces.When that happens, alot of us have trouble pulling ourselves back together again. Some may even resort to extreme measures such as suicide or crime that will ultimately bring us to ruin.Stress affects all levels of society. In these competitive times, students are required to excel in academics & co-curriculum while working adults are required to meet high expectations & targets that has been set for them in their work place. As such, we need to develop an effective way to cope with stress.Once in a while, taking a short break can help alleviate our stress. It doesn't mean that we have to go on a long vacation to clear our heads. A short stroll in the neighbourhood park may help us to 'walk' off the stressful feelings. Listening to soothing or relaxing music in between your work time can help you relax your senses as music has a therapeutic effect. Watching a light-hearted comedy can help you laugh off some of the pressure you have coped up inside as well. Never ever isolate yourself when you are feeling blue. Seek out the company of a friend or a group of friends that you can share your feelings with. Take turns to listen to each others problems & try coming up with helpful suggestions to each others problems. You can also ask any of your loved ones to lend a listening ear to you. Sometimes, all you need is just a word of comfort & a shoulder to cry on to help you get over that stressful period in your life. Learn to recognize when you've had enough with work. Trying to continue ploughing on when your brain's engine is on the verge of breaking down will not do you any good. You may waste alot of effort as well as energy & yet end up achieving very little. At this point, it's time to hit the brakes & rest for a while. You will be surprised at how much better you can feel after a 30 minute nap! Lastly, seek to strengthen yourself spiritually so that you will be able to face the challenges life throws at you. It is important to know that a heart at rest gives life to the body. Prayer & meditation can help you stay calm & collected. Choose to live your life one day at a time. Do not worry or fret too much about the distant future. The human mind can never fanthom what lies far ahead in the future.GOT IT!

Innocent life circle

2007-01-23T12:38:00.001+08:00

There were much blood and deaths splattered over our newspapers recently. Wars, crimes and accidents have taken many innocent lifes. They may be considered the luckier ones because many others who live, continue to mourn their untimely loss. It will be absolute grief for those close to their hearts, and whose bittersweet memories will haunt them for a long time to come.

Many who have died are innocent bystanders or reluctant participants in an unwanted confrontation or forced into an unfortunate situation. The rest of us can only read and watch helplessly. You may vent some of your anger but there is nothing much that can be done for those who have died. If some positive reaction materialises, it may have done some good, but this is likely to be some wistful thinking.

The continuing deaths and sufferings that surfaced with such regularity in the news had somewhat desentitised the public’s feelings over the loss of lives. They have become blurred and bored statistics in an unending saga of violence and destruction. We can debate the rights or wrongs about all these incidents but it does not do anyone any good. There is simply no justification for any killing or loss of lives. If Man cannot learn to live responsibly and in co-existence with each other, there is no hope.

One day we may become a victim too. It seems far off and ridiculous but who knows. It is easy to look the other way and think that the fault lies with others or find some other excuses. Unless everyone honestly searches his or her inner selves for answers, there can be no stop to all these carnage. It has been a tough situation. I just wish everyone peace and tranquility, to say a prayer to all those who have recently perished unnecessarily.GOT IT!

Heavenly Meal

2007-01-22T14:57:00.000+08:00

In this world in turmoil when your thoughts may wander, a truly enjoyable and delicious meal seems a great idea. You do not need a good cook or spend a fortune in an expensive restaurant. Just whet up your appetite before you eat ! Think of the cast of Survivors, starved of the regular food which we take for granted. An ordinary burger and a little can of cola tasted heavenly.

It’s easy as you can either moderate the food you consume at your last meal or wait a little longer before you take your next one. Then choose to eat something you relish (no matter how hungry you are, you will not enjoy something you absolutely dislike).

Have your friends and families around if you can, but it does not matter even if you are alone. However, do not bring your worries to the dining table. Just switch off and focus on the meal. Offer a little prayer. Think how lucky you are to sit down peacefully to enjoy a decent meal. Appreciate nature’s wondrous growth that have given you the rice, vegetables, or meat served, and not forgetting the cook and other people for their hard work too.

Do not rush. Eat slowly even though you can eat faster. This is no race and there are no scavenger around to snatch away your catch. Savour the scent around and chew your food slowly. Taste what you consume. It will be good. You are also eating the way it ought to be done too. Finally do not over eat otherwise you end up uncomfortably.

There is nothing said here that is new and which you may not know. But modern life has stressed us out and we do not make the most of our meal times. Time to stop and smell your roses, and also enjoy your food too. If all these sound too philosophical, just remember that merely slowing down your eating pace can do you wonders. Bon appetite !GOT IT!

Forgiveness

2007-01-22T09:28:00.000+08:00

We always ask for forgiveness from God every time we do something wrong and conscience kicks in. But how often do we forgive others? We face plenty of transgressions done against us ranging from petty issues to serious crimes. Anger keeps us from forgiving. Do we really want the anger last till eternity? A saying goes: “Don’t let your anger continue past sundown.” The act of forgiving doesn’t mean that you must forget the deed on the spot. The act of forgiveness is releasing all anger related to that issue and holding no grudge toward it.
Humans remember bad things vividly but forget the good ones almost immediately. We must always try to overcome this trait. First, we must let go of all petty issues. Why clog up our minds with useless information? Then, we must run through our minds and make a list on whom we have lost contact because of misunderstandings. It is not a time to judge but to make amendments. Be humble and take the first step in apologizing and readily accept others’ apologies too. You may not forget the incident because how our brains work physiologically but we can control our minds to treat matters differently. I admit that I do not understand how it feels like to lose a loved one accidentally or deliberately. But in my opinion as a word of comfort, which is a cliché, it’s no use harboring revenge and anger because it will not change anything. Let God be the avenger as we have no authority to take the law into our own hands.
We have to admit that some major fights that we had will be forgotten over time. We may look back and even laugh about them. But why take such a long time to realize the absurdity in such issues? Look at children. A few minutes after a fight or argument, they would be playing together happily again. The faster we forget conflicts, the happier our lives will be. Grudging is one of the causes for shortening life-span. The world would be a happier place if every one of us changes our mentality. If only that could happen right now.GOT IT!

Regret of my LIFE!

2007-01-18T13:49:00.000+08:00

Right couple, right place with the right situation always strikes love, but are there really secret recipes in achieving great long lasting love? Ever think of how’s the equation like for perfect love? Like 1 plus 1 equals to two. I couldn’t say there’s no possibility at all for such a formula, but someone who got deeply hurt before shall understand that there’s no such think exist on earth. Everything will come naturally as I can see so far and shall not be command or conquer by human being when it’s come to the road of love. Heart is where we always said to stored our love one, and the place to feel the pain and sweetness of love and being together, but it is a very fragile object. Once it’s broken then it shall not be fixed no matter how, and irreplaceable. I used to have this relationship very beautiful, with like what I’ve said, a beautiful place, with the right timing and a perfect situation, we fell in love with each other. We started together very soon, but we are happy to have each other, and we trusted each other with lots of promised. But one mistake from me changed the whole situation, and things become uncontrolled. She stopped loving me the same and she shunted her heart tight not to let me enter, not even once more. There’s no encore for this piece of love I once had, but I shall learn that once a heart is broken, you never get them back. For her, I really would like to say a million sorry. But I never lie a single moments, I have done all the best I really can to make her understand that no one on this earth will replace her. The feeling I got was so true and fadeless. For her once again, I wanted to say she had me until the day I took my last breath, and no matter what happen, she shall be in my heart eternally. My heart is fragile too, but because the love I once had, I stand strong and build my heart tough to go thru every single moment for her. Listen to my heart and read my words, and treasure it like I do.Tough she's happily married,guess there was a good thing happen for it. Never do a single mistake and never think of one mistake would be fine and forgiven easily; it highly depends on who you are with. I have made mistake once, and she is lost forever even everything she had done wrongly I gave my fully forgiveness, but this wont pay back what I have done, and she yet will not return.GOT IT!

The key of the heart

2007-01-17T14:31:00.000+08:00

There’s always a conflict between guys and gals reactions towards different things in love. For a relation, is it really true that the only way to let each other learn is by leaving? Why can’t a relation ship be more caring when love was around. Isn’t that hard for each other to show and give appreciation when really need most.
Here's a story for my point:

Beckham met Victoria, and let himself be the right key in Victoria's life, and for the first few months, promises made, and vows pledged made Beckham go deeper in believing that this love was so true. He started to give everything he possibly can; He started to sacrifice things in her life, not for him, but for the future that he wished to have with her. When comes to that point he think it’s not worth it. She always says that “ I dint ask you to do so”
That really cuts him deep inside. A totality of unappreciated and disrespect of her as his soul mate, and that prove as well, everything he has done never got any appreciation or a little feeling of thankful from her. But he still hold on, he still want to stand strong, although all people around him asking to leave. But he refused and still trying to show that how good he is, and he made the decision not cause by ego or stubborn, it is because he wants to hold on to the breath off someone that he really love. No matter how bad she was, but the love he gave out wasn’t something easy to be kept back. I think this is what I meant the key of my heart.GOT IT!

The Legacy of Hope

2007-01-15T14:54:00.000+08:00

Have we ever wondered why we humans find so many reasons to be unhappy? To fight among ourselves, to kill each other, to defy the very essence of humanity and life.Have we ever wondered when this world we live in, will end its fears and tears?We have become so hardened these days that an unfortunate death has become a part of life, just another news as long as it has nothing to do with us. Life goes on. We carry on. We need to move on. It becomes easier everytime.Is this how we were all intended to live?Animals too kill each other, yes. For food and survival even then only when it has too. Then it goes back living, respecting life and the nature that provides it. But we are the higher and gifted creations of God. We have power even over nature's creations. Whether to protect them or destroy is in our hands.When the last bird drops dead, when the last fish turns belly up, when the last drop of water becomes polluted, are we going to start eating our cash and credit cards?Have we ever wondered why we are living in a world so full of beauty and intelligence that even a minute cell knows its role in this existence? There must some higher reason for this whole concept of life?As humans, we are capable of many wonderful, precious things... of love, of forgiveness, of humanity. Yet, we continue living this way, in hatred and in sorrow? It doesn't make sense.We have the will, choice and power to decide what we want out of this world. What are we going to choose?Our children, our future legacy is going to take over the reins of world. Within a century from now, we will all be dead. What are we living behind for them. At least, some hope?GOT IT!

Heart of Giving!

2007-01-15T12:26:00.000+08:00

The spirit of giving. How often have we heard this around these days? Plenty often. Yet giving is not something we can do only around the special days. The act of giving can be performed on any given day of our lives.
Giving is a natural state of the soul. The soul gives just for the pleasure of giving. It does not expect anything in return nor does it need to receive anything in order to get a feeling that an equal exchange in energy has taken place. It is the ego/personality that relies and wants an "equal exchange". When the personality gives, it often needs something back in return. This may be something of monetary value or it can be a need for acceptance, recognition and often love. The genuine act of giving can not exist where there is a need to receive something in return. Genuine giving is an act of the soul and the soul is content in simply giving.
I have often heard people ask, "How can I give when I have nothing myself?" To this I say, if you have a soul (which we all do) then you are capable of giving. One does not need to give by giving only money. You can give by donating your time to a worthy cause. Volunteering is an excellent form of giving, one that has rewarding benefits for those on the receiving end. For example, look at the smiling face of a dying child in the hospital after a loving volunteer spent time with him or her. The elderly shine when volunteers spend time in nursing homes. Any way that you can use your life to touch another is giving at its finest, and this is something you can do everyday, not just on special days.
Many people give on a daily basis. A warm smile, a loving gesture, a compliment. These are all forms of giving. You do not only have to give these things to people you know. A warm smile goes a long way for a frustrated sales clerk who's had a long, hectic day. Often ones demeanor immediatly changes and brightens for the better when we give warmly of ourselves. Try giving a compliment to the stranger that is occupying the bus shelter with you. Watch and see how their energy suddenly lifts. You won't have been a witness to their day but I assure you you will have made their day brighter with one simple compliment.
Giving is an essential part of self-discovery. I say this because a part of self-discovery is about learning to give to yourself unconditionally. When you give to yourself unconditionally, you are able to give to others unconditionally, meaning without conditions and expectations, hence the natural state of the soul. Is it any wonder that the process of self-discovery revolves around the intricate understanding and experiential knowing of the soul in its state of wholeness. Giving is part of that wholeness.
I encourage you to give. Not just on special days but always and in all ways from your heart center and your soul. The world becomes a better place when we all reach out to our fellow brothers and sisters and give without conditions. In closing, I give to you all a hearty cyber hug and the warmest of wishes for days filled with love, joy, abundance, peace and harmony. May you be blessed at this time and ALWAYS and please feel free to share your stories of giving on the BLOG.GOT IT!

Top 10 Qualities of Men & Women

2007-01-11T11:41:00.000+08:00

There are many articles available today about what is the perfect attributes to have in order for a man or a woman to adore you or be attracted to you. The following is our Top Ten List of qualities or attributes that if you or your partner have will guarantee you to have a healthy, balanced relationship as well as being an attractive person both inside and out.
1)BALANCED: Balanced can mean many things, for the purposes of our article, we mean that you or your partner has a good sense of boundaries, that that you and your partner are a whole person and have a healthy lifestyle.More specifically, you or your partner knows how to maintain their own boundaries and respect the boundaries of their partner. They understand the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness.It is important that you or your partner considers themself already a whole person, that you or your partner doesn’t need someone to fill themselves up or complete them in order to be a complete person. They need to have the belief system that a partner is there to enhance and support their natural, authentic expression, but is not needed to complete who they are.A healthy balance in their lifestyle is also important such as not working themselves too much, drinking or eating too much or doing anything in excess.
2)CONFIDENT: You or your partner are self-confident and have high self esteem. You are confident that you can handle new things, even if you have never done it before or if you may not get it right the first time around. You or your partner has an internal point of reference; you do not need to have reassurance and complements from others to be confident. At the same time you are confident enough to accept compliments or criticism, and are not afraid to give compliments to other people.
3) INDEPENDENT You can be a functional person without relying on another person and you are not codependent.Codependency is a condition that results from dysfunctional patterns based on unhealthy relationships. These dysfunctional patterns are socially learned patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting which result in dependency on other people, places, organizations, things and events to create approval, appreciation, self worth and love to achieve a sense of safety, self esteem, purpose and identity.
4)RELATIONSHIP MASTERY SKILLS: You or your partner knows how to relate in a relationship. You or your partner know important skills like communication skills, conflict resolution and negotiation techniques.
5)EMOTIONAL OPENNESS: You and your partner are able to be emotionally open and honest, being able to express your opinions and be comfortable enough to allow and support your partner’s emotional openness as well.
6)EMPATHETIC: You or your partner need to be able to empathize with the emotions, point of view and experiences of your partner, to be able to get right into their heads and feelings without judgment or trying to fix their situation.
7)UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: You and your partner need to understand the concept of unconditional love, to be able to love you partner whether you agree with their beliefs, emotions, feelings or behaviors. To be able to transcend the conditional love paradigm, even if you are not getting what you want at the given time.
8)ON DHARMIC PATH: A person who is on their dharmic path is someone who is in bliss for a great deal of their day. What a wonderful inspiration to be with someone who is on path.
9)NON-RESISTANT TO CHANGE: You or your partner is someone who is not in resistance to change, or at the very least understands when they are in resistance to change and allows themselves to go through the stages of adapting to change without resisting the process. You or your partner would need to understand and accept that change is a natural part of life.
10)SENSE OF HUMOUR: When the going gets tough, the tough start laughing. Do you ever find that when you make light of a difficult situation is a lot easier to get through? Well, having a partner who can make light of a situation (of course while still empathizing with your situation) is much easier on you than a partner who freaks out whenever something happens. Laughter brings gentle strength and renews your focus so you can be open to new ways of dealing with the situation.Compatibility and knowing what are your wants, needs and requirements are all vital to finding your highest and best relationship. The list above, although depending upon your level of consciousness may seem a little out of reach. However, regardless of your personality and what you are seeking in a partner and what your partner is seeking in you, the list above are fail safe attributes that are universal to everyone that are within everyone’s reach and will guarantee a healthy relationship that sets the stage for both stability and expansion. GOT IT!

All we need is LOVE!

2007-01-10T15:36:00.000+08:00

All we need is love, the Beatles told us. But in my experience giving and receiving the quality of love we desire is a darned hard thing. Why is that?Perhaps it is because to get the love we need we have to honestly present ourselves to the world. How can someone give you the kind of love you need if your present a false picture of yourself to them? If you can’t show the world who you truly are then all you can do is hope that someone will provide the kind of love you need by accident. Consequently the quality of love you receive may directly correlate to your ability to be vulnerable with other people.And of course it is darned hard to be vulnerable. Most of us arrived as adults by becoming actors of our own lives. It often reaches the point where even we get confused and find it difficult to tell if the version of ourselves that we present to the world is fake or the genuine article.I have a friend who wants someone find someone that totally “gets” her. Some part of me thinks that waiting around for this person is a lot like waiting for God. At best you can hope that some combination of people will “get” you in divergent ways where you feel this appreciation and love. But sometimes I run across couples who truly seem to me to be so well integrated that I tend to put aside my skepticism and think “These two people are soul mates. They were meant to be together.” So alas, im back at square one, confusion...confusion...confusion...As small children, we all have an image of our ideal man/woman....what he/she looks like, how he/she talks, and how he /she expresses and conducts himself. You think you will meet him/her, experience love at first sight, and be swept off your feet. When the day comes and you find yourself goosebumps in love with that special someone, he/she nothing like the person you imagined. While he/she isn't the Prince Charming/Prince Diana...oops! you've always dreamed about, but it worth giving a chance to explore much more. It is so amazing that the one person you have been looking for is unlike anything in your childhood dreams. Is it because our childhood thoughts are a mere reflection of society's vision of the perfect love or possibly a wish to fulfill the fairy tales.We have been force-fed since birth? Mabe it's time we rethink those reflection and emphasize our culture places on them. The truth of the matter is that love finds you when you least expect it, in the most unlikely places at a time when love is the farthest thing from your mind. And the person you fall in love with is the one you feel an inexplicable connection with, an indescribable desire to be with, not some preconceived notion of perfection.Perfection becomes what you see in your mate, both strengths and weaknesses, and you realize that the ideal man/woman the person who gives you everything....heart and soul and teaches you how to love not only him/her but yourself as well.GOT IT!

Self Improvement Is A Key To Quitting Smoking

2007-01-09T15:03:00.000+08:00

Often smokers ask how to quit smoking? The answer is quit by quitting. If you are soft, and if you show the slightest latitude, you will continue to sail aimlessly in the rudderless boat. You are unlikely to reach your destination.Don't complain about lack of assistance. Much of the aids and material are available to you in the market today to help you in the process of quitting! These materials will be of use to you only if you have a strong will power. Any pact is useless unless there is a strong will power to implement it.The most amazing thing about the quality of you the smoker is that you are aware of the fact that you can't escape punishment for your misdeed. The habit of smoking can turn into a life-time suffering in the form of severe diseases or death itself. And yet many smokers have hesitation to quit smoking!The main problem before you is how to spend the time that you normally spend in smoking. Those long and short intervals of nicotine pull and push!Now, you need to fill up these gaps with positive activities. The same needs to be done in a systematic manner. If you do not organize this activity properly, there is every chance of you slipping into the nicotine zone again.You are caught in the net of nicotine, and it is a complicated weave. If you escape from one end, you are trapped at the other end. The situation is somewhat like that. To begin with, try to be strong at the intellectual level. Read lots of anti-smoking literature.The actual process of coming out of the nicotine net is time-consuming and complicated. Read lots of case studies, regarding the life stories of the suffering of the smokers.Visit a cancer ward in a hospital and talk to the patients and the doctors. This will have a telling impact on your mind. Your determination to quit smoking will solidify.Sometimes, simple substitutes work effectively. Buy common cinnamon sticks. They are comfortable to suck. It has the appearance of the cigar. Cinnamon is healthy from the point of view of the health of heart.When the urge to smoke becomes too much, just get up from that place and go for a brisk walk that will tire you out.Have a regular schedule of exercise, meditation and breathing exercises. You have to slowly and steadily enhance your internal strength.This time you must succeed in your stop smoking effort. You are already late, but better late than never!

Man & Woman

2007-01-08T15:06:00.000+08:00

To MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY.... A MAN ONLY NEEDS TO BE:
1. A friend
2. A companion
3. A lover
4. A brother
5. A father
6. A master
7. A chef
8. An electrician
9. A carpenter
10. A plumber
11. A mechanic
12. A decorator
13. A stylist
14. A sexologist
15. A gynecologist
16. A psychologist
17. A pest exterminator
18. A psychiatrist
19. A healer
20. A good listener
21. An organizer
22. A good father
23. Very clean
24. Sympathetic
25. Athletic
26. Warm
27. Attentive
28. Gallant
29. Intelligent
30. Funny
31. Creative
32. Tender
33. Strong
34. Understanding
35.Tolerant
36. Prudent
37. Ambitious
38. Capable
39. Courageous
40. Determined
41. True
42. Dependable
43. Passionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
44. Give her compliments regularly
45. Love shopping
46. Be honest
47. Be very rich
48. Not stress her out
49. Not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
50. Give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
51. Give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. Give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
53. Never to forget:* birthdays* anniversaries* arrangements she makes

HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY:

1. Leave him alone

What is relationship?

2007-01-08T11:47:00.000+08:00

1. Many of us begin their relationships for fun (try only; first time experience), to show off, to fight off peer pressure etc. In the end, who's being hurt when things get serious?
2. Don't start a serious relationship if you aren't ready yet; but of course, if you insist it's just for fun, don't hurt others due to your selfishness!
3. Don't brag that you can handle a relationship easily when you're beginning to court someone; be good in looking after urself before taking care of others.
4. Majority - Guys are prone to peer, work, family pressure. As they are sensitive and can't stand the burden, they tend to let them out on their partners. So please, train yourself and control. Find better ways to mollify yourself instead of abusing others.
5. Saying is easier than doing!Once in a while, guys will slip out of their actions/words and hurt their partners because we guys could not stand stress. So girls, please, be understanding and patient. Mollify your men well and then bring up the topic about better ways to understand each other. Encourage a discussion always. Most girls get angry because of their temperamental men; hence break-ups occur. Remember, if you love someone deeply, forget about small matters and always improve on them.
6. Always forgive each other and move on with life..Compromise with each other will lead to a long lasting relationship.
7. For those who can't get over their broken relationships, look on the bright side. Learn to love others - nature, family, animals etc. Love is not only for your partner yeah. When you love someone or anything, you'll be happier and things will be much easier for you.
8. Don't be too calculative. Don't complain so much about your partner. If you complain so much, then why start a relationship in the first place? You'll only hurt yourself and her/him. Instead of complaining, talk about whatever to her/him - find a solution BUT no abusing verbally/physically. Arguments are welcomed of course if both parties can take them.
9. Don't Don't complain about your partner or tell your problems about relationships to your friend! Though that's your best or good friend, Never trust them so easily. Don't take things for so granted yeah. Unless, you feel that that person can be trusted really, then it's up to you personally. Most people suggest that talking to your PARENTS is best solution. They know best, so they can give you bits of advice. Of course, if they're nosey and might interfere with your relationship, then be smart and change the story, not involving your name whatsoever. Or talk to your family members will be great. If it's really bad, then email me cylan_deco@yahoo.com.my
STAND BY ME!

Mother Earth

2007-01-06T16:01:00.000+08:00

Doesn’t the world have enough problems? Doesn’t all religion teach forgiveness? Does it solve the problem by showing violence at the people who made a grave mistake? Does violence make a point? Why don’t you come up with a funnier cartoon? Did your religion teach you to set fire, burn and show so much violence? Are you setting a good example of belonging to such a religion? Why can’t we learn and practice the good part of religion? Why are you worrying the world of millions of innocent people just to show you are angry? Where has human wisdom gone?

The world has been suffering from so much fighting over religion. How can you teach your children that religion is a good thing? Why must anyone fight at all? Why is religion being used as a reason or an excuse to have war?

What do you all want out of all this? World peace or world war? Why can’t nations just leave nations alone. Why can’t you be contented with life as it is, why can’t we trade with one another honestly like how all religion tells us too? Why can’t the world be shared with all to live in harmony? Has religion and education failed? What good do we get out of all this? Why still fight the wars of yesteryears?

There are bigger issues like keeping the world a safer place, maintaining its resources and making it a better world for our children and future generation to live in. With all this fighting, what does it really teach our children? Are we preparing this world to be a better place for them or making it worst?

Where has all the wisdom gone? Why is it being overcome by greed and selfishness and carelessness? What is happening to this beautiful world and its beautiful people?

Why don’t you spend time thinking how to make ends meet and work hard for your family like the rest of us do? Does all the protesting feed your children?

There are more serious issues in the world to attend to like survival.

Leaders of the world, please find peace for the rest of us, you have been given the power by God to make things better for the world, please do your part to keep world peace not create world war.

PLEASE SAVE OUR COOL PLANET

OUR GENERATION NEEDS IT!

Ideal life partner

2007-01-05T10:31:00.000+08:00

In this present world,each individual has his own freedom to choose a life partner as we are no longer attach to the ancient family rules.Life partners play a very important role in our lives as they bring a very high influence into our characters and decisions.They are involve in every scene of our story and as a result,joy or sorrow are dependent on them.Happy moments and hardships are to be gone through together as they took the oath to be each other's spouse.Therefore,a person's life partner's role matters very much in contibution to his success or downfall and this is why i'm still looking for the someone.
Most guys wished to have a rich,smart,beautiful,diligent and kind person as their ideal life partner.But,an all in one package partner seems to be beyond existance as we are all human beings with lustful thoughts and acts.In my opinion,an ideal life partner should practise the same religion and beliefs as oneself to avoid disagreement in decisions regarding religions.A couple who share the similar faith get to work things out in a spiritual manner and this helps to reduce quarrels and arguments.On the other hand,their children need not face the circumstances of being persuaded to accept the different beliefs of their parents.This might also prevent harm from outsiders,friends or even our most trusted ones as the family stay in unity.
Nonetheless,my ideal life partner would be a person who is worth my trust.Being with an untrustworthy partner for the rest of your life would be a nightmare as it will just cause inferiority and jealousy to arouse.But,a reliable life partner makes me feel secure no matter where or what she is doing.For some unfortunate couples,they were forced to live in a far distance due to certain factors after or before their marriage.And in this scenario,a reliable partner does not give his spouse a threat of disloyalty but an untrustworthy one will be doubt and distrust.People do sometimes share their properties,bank accounts and other valuable stuffs with their life partner and what would happen if their trust were to be used in vain by their negligent partners.We will never know when disasters appear and things are just unpredictable all the time.
Apart from that,I think it would be better if my life partner is smart and resourceful.A smart life partner ensures a good living as she is capable of making money and being a loyalthy mum to my kids.It is rather hectic to slot day and night whilst the women stays at home without sharing the burden of the family these days.Life partner with intelligent ideas may create surprises and wonderful things and being spontaneous in many ways would have never expected in all our lives.Out of love,these wise people brighten up their life partners as well with insurance and guidance.A resourceful partner keeps a person like me to learn and gain more knowledge by providing daily advices too.As we endure to be with our loved ones,we do not wish to depart from them.Wise thinkers may care and make more wise decisions in their habits,culture or exposure in anything.In this way,we less worry for a wise than a foolish partner.
Hence,an abundant life is much determined by ones life partner.It is one of the most important decision to make on choosing the right life partner.Life often presents us with big,crucial and sometimes,decisions that we never want to make.But,I presume good decision requires love and rationality.People tend to make decisions based on petty calculations of personal profit and loss.But,we should make decisions based on love and not by anger nor the future benefits we gain.

Peace of Mankind

2007-01-04T12:43:00.000+08:00

Sometimes I wonder whether I'm better off, NOT knowing issues that is going on in the world today. The disillusionment that one inevitably suffers, as he realises that world is not as perfect as he once assumed, is a standard ritual of growing up, And yet I can't shake the nagging doubts that perhaps I would have been much happier, though evidently less worthly, if these incidents had never been brought to my attention in the first place.War, famine, pollution, racism, sexism, the list just goes on and on and on. I don't even need to give examples, just open your daily newspaper, and there you have it. Now, long ago I resolved that this world isn't perfect, but to be reminded of it every other day, As I am literally assaulted with this information, just leaves me wishing that I could succeed from this great brotherhood of mankind. I've known many, who simply turn a blind eye. Those "lucky" few who can simply ignore everything that happens to the world around them, and enjoy their morning cup of coffee with such relish that only a man who was so convinced that the world revolved solely around them, and that so long as this world was unmarred and unblemished, they couldn't care less about the going-ons of the "rest" of civilisation. I find this cocktail of ignorance, apathy and egotism, laced with cynicism... a little less then unsettling.And I've said to myself, I don't want to be one of those people, and yet I find myself saying once too often, "I'm glad that didn't happen to me!" or simply flipping the page over when it seems too morbid and depressing. I find my myself shunting out all the depressing things that happen in this world, just standing waistdeep in a pool of denial, and when finally an ethical and moral crisis decends upon me, I dive for the solace of empathy and charity to salvage what little humanity there is left.These days though, I've realised that the only thing we can do, is try. We certainly can't change the whole world, but we can at least change the world around us, the people we work with, and our family and friends, or even a stranger on the street. Sometimes the smallest things we do, can make the biggest changes to the world around you.GOT it!.

That's LIFE!

2007-01-04T11:47:00.000+08:00

Have you ever wonder,Why life have been so unfair to you?Why you have to work so hard but you just can't get back the value of the return?Why you always try to your maksimum in producing results in workplace but it end-up worthless without appreciation? Sometimes I do felt so,but think back on the bright side,life have been fair.Each time after I gone through a hard time which I really felt down and wished I could turn back time,I'll get back some good experiences which have make me grown and start to appreciate what I owned.I've learned to ask myself if life wouldn't have its ups and downs,will it be meaningful or will I be enjoying life like what I did now and my answer is always 'No'. Sometimes I've put a high expectation in what I've been working hard for,as a result,I ended up being upset.Time passed by and I'm tired of being upset for not getting what I want,so,I just let it be.Be myself,work hard but not expecting any return.Suprisingly,I've got more than what I wanted as a return!!This is life,I guessed so! Sometimes I felt that I treat my friends well but ended up being betrayed and hurt.Still remember once a mentor told me,''If ever in your life,a person betrayed you once,is their fault but if they betrayed you twice,is your fault'',I don't understand at first but when I asked further,the mentor said ''if you let the same person betrayed you twice,isn't it your fault for being not aware?''.So,I started to realise,I still treat my friends well but I'm aware of their behaviour,I guessed I'll feel better.Guess what?I felt much more happier as I've learn to differentiate the real friends around me. Life actually is a series of experiences,each one of its,makes us grown,even though sometimes it's hard to realise!At the moment,i'm enjoying and living a leasure of good quality and amazing pool of friends that appreciate me as I am.GOT It!

Love..Love..Love

2007-01-03T12:29:00.000+08:00

Once we mentioned the word love, those lucky ones might feels that they are in heaven but for those who are not so lucky feels that they are in a place worst than HELL..How funny this world can turn into..Let me share with you a few real life experience..

FOR THOSE THAT THINK THEY ARE IN HEAVEN

EXAMPLE 1 : Guy A is a totally uninspiring guy and everything he does he do it in "slow motion"..totally (or can be say as lazy) but guess what, God decide to send someone totally opposite of him to take care of him and now both of them are a very lovely couple.
EXAMPLE 2 : Guy B is a very in secure guy, used to like a girl very much but lately a girl goes crazy over him, she cooked for him, take care of him, try to go out with him all the time and be there for him...How lucky huh..from what i heard, both of them just become couple and they are quite happy with each other..Thats good

FOR THOSE WHO THINK THEY ARE IN HELL

EXAMPLE 3 : Guy C like this girl a lot and he do everything for that girl, call her, fetch her, buy gifts for her, be there for her, concern about her but they are not couple yet..the reason ? the girl dont know what she wants although she likes that guy..she keep on answering that guy that she don’t know what she want when guy C asked how is their relationship..and now that guy in depressed mood and no longer have vision about life..too bad huh.
EXAMPLE 4 : Guy D and Guy E like the same girl...sounds familiar ?It happened quite often in some movies but this happens to my friends,now the girl having dillema cause don’t know which guy to choose from.Both the guys also in depression mood.Both of them treated the girl the best they could. No decision from the girl yet cause she dont want to hurt any of the guys.
After all the example i have given you it shows that life can be so different for different people..Whenever you are happy be glad that you are in that situation and if you are sad keep believing that life will be much better the next day..miracles happens in a split seconds so be ready to get change yourself for it..
What else to say ???Peoplle out there, love is a wonderful thing, it doesnt matter what kind of love, love for friends , love for parents, love for friends etc....Appreciate and Cherish it..Those waiting for their loved one to reply their love, give them a little bit of time..
To love someone is nothing, To be loved is something , To love and be loved is everything-Got it!

Forgiving person-Mother

2007-01-03T09:11:00.000+08:00

No matter what you may have done wrong, a person who is always able to give you a second chance, none other than your own mother.
In the competitive world of today, whereby we have numerous choices and alternatives to choose from, the harsh environment is whenever you fail to deliver, there are plenty of others who are ever ready to replace you.
Except in the eyes of your mother, you will forever be the child she can not find any replacement, a child she will cherish and love most.
For those who have lost their mothers, they will understand the loss of love better than those who are luckier & still have their parents living along them.
Many times in the past, we used to take things for granted, we assumed the love given by our mum is our basic rights. Mum is to provide and feed us, and she is duty bound to let us have the best, she would only eat whatever we left behind, duty fully clean up the table and chairs, washed the dishes.
She would be concerned if her dishes were not eaten, worried most when one of us fell sick. If we did some naughty things, she will reprimand us, but never gave up upon us. Instead, she always forgave us no matter what we did.
Once, I went for clubbing and only reach home in the morning and couldn't go to work. She found out and scolded me for making such irresponsible acts, but thankfully for the good side of her she forgave my mistakes and reminded me always to take care of myself, never should I forget to keep her informed of my well beings.
Many of us tend to forget and not able to forgive others for any mistakes made. We failed to learn the wisdoms of forgiveness taught so well by our mum. If and only if we could have been more sensitive and humble to notice this great virtue our mum has passed down to us, we have received the greatest gift from her, and no money can buy such unconditional love and care.
Mum, a great creation of loving GOD, a lady we have taken for granted but remained to be most forgiving person in the world for the world population.

Cycle of life

2006-12-28T09:02:00.000+08:00

A friend of mine is dying! I don't seem to be able to shake off this growing melancholic feeling since I visited him in hospital a week ago. He is only 37, and at the peak of his career. A tumour in his brain suddenly brought this to an untimely end.
Two weeks ago, he could still speak to me. Hearing his frail voice with lame tone, he seemed like a total stranger to me. I have always known him to be so full of life, even a little brash at times. The small voice sounded so hopeless and depressing. I felt so sorry for him and his family but at the same time, awkward, for I was at a loss for words to express my sympathy. What do you say to someone who knows that he is dying?
At the hospital a week ago, he could not even speak. Seeing him grab his wife's hand attempting to bite it, out of frustration and total desperation; is heart-rending. It makes me wonder what goes through a person's mind during these dark moments. Does one reflect on one's life anymore or does one struggle with the immediate need to stay alive for as long as one can? The escalating sense of foreboding must surely drive a person crazy. Or is it fear that one feels. After all death is unknown and anything that is unknown will surely bring about uncertainty and fear...
Another friend of mine who was with me at the time asked this friend to meditate in order to remain calm. He (my sick friend)closed his eyes and remained silent for some moments. He seemed unhappy with this piece of well-meaning advice.
"How do you know what I am really going through?," he seemed to be saying.
At that moment, I wish I knew how best to communicate to bring him calm and solace. At the end, I just reminded him that I have always known him to be a strong and wonderful person and that he should remain strong. He nodded as though in agreement, then mumbled something that I could not comprehend.
Today, I hear that his condition has turned for the worst. His organs are failing him and he is in a very critical condition.
Life and death cycle is part of all of us. This I know, but when it happens to someone you know or is close to you, the reality just seems cruel and harsh.

Respect

2006-12-27T09:22:00.000+08:00

Everyday we read in the papers of the horrors that are not only happening in my own country but all over this world. It saddens me to know that such evil is knocking on our doors. We read about rape and killings that are such a waste, Babies are being raped and abused, potential young women are brutally taken away and accidents that can be averted happen. WHY?
To me it is lack of respect. Respect for life, respect for people and all things. If we respect one another, we wouldn't rape and kill babies and women, we would respect their right of life to live. If we respect people we would make sure that safety was a priorety when we work, drive or even when we construct. It is a lack of respect that makes some people lose their total regard for what happens to others.
We dont respect our old any more , we put them in home telling ourselves that thats the best. We dont respect our neighbours we dont even say hello or give a friendly wave. We dont respect people we work with we divide ourselves by rank and pay. We dont respect our childrens right to have both parents to care and nuture them. We give that job to nannys or maids. The world has changed and I dont deny we have to work harder to obtain the means to satisfy our basic needs but are we really out to satisfy basic needs or just the need to be better than the next. To me thats fine but we cant let a simple thing like respect be lost in our quest to succeed. Once we lose that respect we become no better than the criminals that rape , kill, desicrate, and steal.
If we respect each other maybe we can cut down on the crime that happen. We cant be so absorbed in our lives to that we forget the simplest of things that god and our fore fathers have often reminded us about "respect one another".
It is a waste for such peolpe to die so young and for us to forget it without learning a lesson from it. Respect life no matter how small and if we teach our children that maybe just maybe we can reduce crimes in this country. Because whether we want to admit it or not and whether or not we like it criminals, rapists, murders, thieves are somebody's child. So lets start to teach the young ones respect for life, the environment, the forests and people before its to late.
I once read a saying that I will always remeber it goes:
A hundred years from now it will not matter what kind of car I drove, the house I lived in or how much money I had in the bank but the world is a better place because of the child I loved"
The world will be a better place if my children learn respect and love.

Yesterday,TODAY and Tomorrow

2006-12-26T12:52:00.000+08:00

There are two days in every week we should never worry about, two days that should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One is yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its aches and pains, its faults and blunders. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed, no erase a single word we've said. Yesterday is gone. The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow, with its impossible adversaries, its burden, its hopeful promise and unknown performance. Tomorrow is beyond our control. Tomorrow's sun will rise either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds - but it will rise. And until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow, for it is as yet unborn. This leaves only one day - today! Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when we add the burdens of yesterday and tomorrow that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives people mad. It is the remorse of bitterness for something that happened yesterday, and the dread of what tomorrow may bring. Make TODAY the best day it can be and tomorrow more better than today,GOT IT!

LOVE......?I don't think so.

2006-12-26T09:43:00.000+08:00

Why do people believe in love at first sight? And the weirdest thing about it is that they use the term 'love'! How can it be said to be love if you don't even know the person. I feel that the word love has totally lost its meaning these days. They consider the slightest crush or physical attraction as love. Of course there are many who really fall in love and live happily ever after and all that, but I’m referring to those who misuse the word love. I’ve spoken to people who have told me 'love' stories which are so ridiculous. There are even some who start a relationship with a person who dialed their number by mistake. instead of saying 'sorry, wrong number’ and hanging up the phone, if the caller is of the opposite sex, some kind of chemical or hormonal reaction instantly takes place and they start chatting. Later they refer to it as fate. And then of course there are those who chat once with a total stranger online and immediately know that he/she is the 'one'. Then all the midnight lovey-dovey phone calls start. For all they know, the person who was sweet-talking them online could be an ex-convict/murderer/rapist/psycho... there are so many possibilities. I’m not a love hating person; I just think we have to be really careful with matters of the heart. We can't simply decide we're in love just because we feel like it, or we think we're getting old or just because everyone else has a boyfriend/girlfriend. Let’s be cautious. The person made for us will come along. Let’s not be hasty and settle for 'mr/ms. wrong number' or just anyone we meet online.Well,definately mr/ms.is out there somewhere
for us to get hitch but time will tell and the feelings won't lie.So,patients my friend!

What is true love?

2006-12-22T18:35:00.000+08:00

What it means by true love ? Most of us still in mist of searching the hidden meaning behind this statement. But why is it hard to say that parents love towards thier children is the meaning behind this puzzle. Every time we refer to the statement, what comes to our mind would be the love we have towards our spouse, towards couples and towards our own inner feelings, but when are we going to realise that parents love are the one and only one could fit into the defination of true love.
The love we have on our spouse could fade away when we got into misunderstanding, fight and over some petty issue which could be solved withour any further arguments, friends love could fade away when you got into trouble caused by your friends, couples love would fade away when they meet someone better than each other as time goes by but there's only one of a kind love would always be there no matter how you hurt each other when there's misunderstanding, that is for sure our parents love.
Parents will always be there for you without any expectations and would shower you with love without any doubt. Even the person you've trusted for all these years, married with hope that there will be endless love between them, will fade one day when all the wonderful promises made before marriage do not actually turn how it is suppose to be.And for sure life would a question mark when love flew away just like that.This situation won't happen among you and your parents, because they would be your best friend, well - wisher and the best guardion in the entire world.
Why is there no one in the world willing to sacrifice thier life for their parents? I know damn right i will.Giving away life for someone you hardly known is a waste rather than you sacrifice for someone who give life and brought you up to this extend. Nothing is greater than parents love, don't waste time searching for true love in this world , there's already an answer to these, that definitely would be your PARENTS.

Friendship

2006-12-22T17:35:00.000+08:00

We all know that a friend is a friend who listens to other people’s problems as much as sharing their own problems with them and to be there when a friend needs you. But be alert of all your friends around you because some of your friends may be just pretenders and backstabbers. The ones who leave us behind in times of adversity are very likely to be the unfaithful friends.

Choosing right friends is important because you are influence or affected by your friends in subtle ways you may not realize. Like, if you’re stressed out in terms of life ,he or she able to convince that is not the end of the world since you both are allready bounded.

In the other hand, a friend who works hard might inspire you to keep challenge yourself and also keep improving yourself in positively ways. These two difference type of friends can influence you in your daily life if you didn’t try to know them better.

Would you want a friend who tries hard to please you even though they are forced to lie to you? Would you accept their insincere remarks? As for myself, I’ll feel cheated and angry. Please choose a friend who are trustworthiness, honest and dependable person rather than choose a friend who is good at physical appearances but insincere.

But don’t get me wrong, I didn’t means to close the door to others that is not a good person. There are all the others who are not your friend yet, but one day they may become your best friends. You can give them selfless advice and listens to their problems. Always remember to be an ideal friend to others as well. The only way to have a friend is to be one. One must know that everyone is a friend, until they prove otherwise.

Seasons for companion

2006-12-22T10:41:00.000+08:00

It’s that time of the year again-Christmas and New Years. Many of us have a culturally-based rose-tinted image that everyone should be happy during this time of the year. However, not all of us excitedly anticipate the holiday season- especially those that are single. I’m sure you have noticed that somehow the word single, always equates to loneliness. Nevertheless, I’m certain that the holiday season should not be any different for the singletons.
Single or not, we are all capable of filing our lives with joy, laughter and great memories. That is what we have family and friends for. And if you consider yourself to have no family, I’d like to enlighten you that family can be anyone you love or care about. So the excuse of not having any family members can't truthfully be used. Also, I have a sneaky little feeling that if you look closely and hard enough, you will be able to find at least one person that is willing to share the holiday season together.
One way to combat loneliness if you don’t have someone special in your life is to help others from being lonely-such as elderly people in nursing homes or charities that need extra volunteers. Some of these elderly folks don’t have any family or kids and no one to visit them. If you can stop by for a moment and bring along Christmas cards and candy. You will find it comforting to occupy yourself in a role caring for others in a worse position than yourself.
Everyone should learn to get over "being alone." If you can't learn to tolerate your own company, you will definitely make a miserable partnering-mistake out of desperation. Come this holiday season, single or not single, I urge everyone out there to celebrate peace, comfort, beauty, enjoyment and gratitude. The holidays are what you make of them so make them joyous and memorable. For now, I want to wish you the best this holiday season and please be happy with all your blessings.

Lessons of life

2006-12-20T16:04:00.000+08:00

LESSON 1--A junior manager, a senior manager and their boss are on their way to a meeting. On their way through a park, they come across a wonderlamp.They rub the lamp and a ghost appears. The ghost says, "Normally, one is granted three wishes but as you arethree, I will allow one wish each"So the eager senior manager shouted, "I want the first wish. I want to be in the Bahamas , on a fast boat and have no worries." Pfufffff, and he was gone.Now the junior manager could not keep quiet and shouted "I want to bei n Florida with beautiful girls, plenty of food and cocktails."Pfufffff, and he was also gone.The boss calmly said, "I want these two idiots back in the office after lunch at 12.35pm."*MORAL OF THE STORY IS: " ALWAYS ALLOW THE BOSSES TO SPEAK FIRST"*
LESSON 2-- Standing in front of a shredder with a piece of paper in his hand."Listen," said the CEO, "this is a very sensitive and important document,and my secretary has left. Can you make this thing work?""Certainly," said the young executive.He turned the machine on, inserted the paper, and pressed the startbutton."Excellent, excellent!" said the CEO as his paper disappeared insidethe shredder machine. "I just need one copy." *LESSON II - NEVER, NEVER ASSUME THAT YOUR BOSS KNOWS EVERYTHING.*
LESSON 3--An American and a Japanese were sitting on the plane on the way to LA when the American turned to the Japanese and asked, "What kind of -eseare you?"The Japanese confused, replied, "Sorry but I don't understand what you mean."The American repeated, "What kind of -ese are you?"Again, the Japanese was confused over he question.The American, now irritated, then yelled, "What kind of -ese are you .....Are you a Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese!, etc......???"The Japanese then replied, "Oh, I am a Japanese."A while later the Japanese turned to the American and asked What kindof 'key' was he.The American, frustrated, yelled, "What do you mean what kind of -kee'am I ?!"The Japanese said, "Are you a Yankee, donkee, or monkee?"*
LESSON III - NEVER INSULT ANYONE.*
LESSON 4--There were these 4 guys, a Russian, a German, an American and a French,who found this small genie bottle.When they rubbed the bottle, a genie appeared.Thankful that the 4 guys had released him out of the bottle, He said, "Next to you all are 4 swimming pools, I will give each of youa wish. When you run towards the pool and jump, you shout what you wantthe pool of water to become, then your wish will come true."The French wanted to start. He ran towards the pool, jumped andshouted"WINE".The pool immediately changed into a pool of wine. The Frenchman was sohappy swimming and drinking from the pool.Next is the Russian's turn, he did the same and shouted, "VODKA" andimmersed himself into a pool of vodka.The German was next and he jumped and shouted, "BEER". He was socontented with his beer pool.The last is the American. He was running towards the pool when suddenlyhe steps on a banana peel. He slipped towards the pool and shouted,"S H I T!!!!!!!........."*LESSON IV - THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU SAY SOMETHING, BECAUSE SOMETIMESACCIDENTS DO HAPPEN.*
LESSON 5--The organs of the body were having a meeting, trying to decide who wasin charge. Each organ took a turn to speak up: Brain......... I should be in charge because I run all body functions.Blood........ I should be in charge because I circulate oxygen for the brain.Stomach...... I should be in charge because I process food to the brain. Legs......... I should be in charge because I take the brain where it wants to go.Eyes......... I should be in charge because I let the brain see whereit's going.A s s xxxx.....I should be in charge because I get rid of your waste. All the other parts laughed so hard and this made the asshole very mad.To prove his point, the a s s h o l e immediately slammed tightly closedand stayed that way for 6 days, refusing to rid the body of any waste whatsoever.Day 1 - Brain got a terrible headache and cried out for reliefDay 2 - Stomach got bloated and began to ache terriblyDay 3 - Legs got cramps and became unstable.Day 4 - Eyes became watery and vision became blurred Day 5 - Blood became toxic and poisoned the bodyDay 6 - The other organs agreed to let the a s s xxxx be in charge.*MORAL OF THE STORY: NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE, OR HOW IMPORTANT YOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU WILL FIND THAT IT IS ALWAYS THE A S S XXXX THAT IS IN CHARGE.*.

Language of society

2006-12-19T09:22:00.000+08:00

Recently i met my ex-colleague,kind of strange though...my usual defensive self was absent that day. Perhaps it was when i know that she is not so into people's bad things...the following days saw us getting closer, talking to each other everyday...understanding each other better...but then out of no where she told me that she had heard a lot of things bout me before...as usual, a lot of bad things... i stopped her and said, i don't really wanna know what you heard about me. a person i looked up to once told me, the lesser you know about all this things, the lesser upset you will be...and IT'S REALLY TRUE...
What better terms can be used to describe a person's desire to find out things of another person. nowadays, almost everyone seems quite comfortable talking about bad things of other people. iIt bothers me though...when i see someone can go to such an extent just to find out more about a friend's personal life or problems. Are people's like that interesting? For example is it wrong for a single guy going after a female colleague who is also single? or is it wrong for two friends of the opposite sex to hangout together in a club? I don't know about you guys out there but if there is anyone that talks to me about this kind of things, i will just say," enough already, because i am not really that into people's private life." perhaps it was the experience that i had...Where simple incidents become rumours and the rumours end up being the talk of the town. Often i wonder, what joy is there in talking about people? What happiness do you get in spreading lies and stories about someone? Must all conversations include all this? Whatever a person had done, or however a person is, he or she does not deserve all this. Well i am not talking about a murder or anything like that. just that even hearing to these kind of things about someone behind their backs disgusts me, and you don't even have to mention talking bout it...Imagine one day, if you found out people are talking bout you or worst of all your family, about something that in untrue or something else that make your ears hurt, How will you feel? if someone were to say that you caused your best friend to break up with her boy friend, or when you heard a story about you and a girl checked into a hotel for a one night stand 'thing', but the truth is that you two only had a drink at the hotel lobby?
SAD, but it's true that people talk...but i just hope that whoever comes across this, will stop or at least avoid talking bout people. Don't victimise your friend for your own pleasure. and most of all, it's NOT fun and it will hunt you back someday.

The day we born

2006-12-18T08:53:00.000+08:00

I’ve learned something new on my cousins birthday (December 17). Maybe there are some of you who have done this but there are still a number of you who haven’t done it. While I was having my dinner with my cousins and relatives, she told me that she will usually buy a present for her mom on her own birthday. I was quite puzzled with her answer because as most of us nowadays would think that, a birthday person would receive presents from our parents and friends. Thus I asked her the reason for it. Her answer is just so simple that most of us don’t realize it. According to her “Our birthday is the day where our mother suffers the most as they endure hours of labor pain during giving birth to us on the day we were born. Therefore I would present her with a gift to show my gratitude for giving birth to me and cared for me since I was born’. With her simple answer, it just let me realized that how many of us are doing this for our parents on our birthday and to think of it,my mom suffer the pain of giving birth to twins ME and my bro.

True destiny

2006-12-08T10:44:00.000+08:00

We should give our dreams – the things which we hope to do and achieve – a chance. Many of us have lofty dreams as a child, but as we grew up, we slowly let go of those dreams, dismissing them as unrealistic.

We dreamt of becoming a famous scientist, world class pianist or rich businessman when we were hopeful and impressionable ten-year-olds, but stopped taking those dreams seriously as we grew older. Why? Because we think that those dreams are impossible to achieve, that we’d be foolish to pursue them and that only those few lucky people get to attain their childhood dreams.

So, we ease into the state of being just ordinary, and we thought that now we’re being realistic as opposed to being naively idealistic as a child. But the truth is just that we’ve given up too easily. To be successful, we need to possess a certain amount of idealism.

Of course, we can always argue that a young child does not know about life and its difficulties, and so, they’ll have dreams that strike their fancy and that may not be realistic. But if we really want to achieve our dreams, we should stop making excuses and start taking our dreams seriously.

Many of us fail to achieve our dreams because we like to dismiss them as impossible without trying. Dreams will only come true by trying. Often, we need to try many times, and efforts also include working hard, learning, improving ourselves and looking for opportunities. If we’ve never tried, how do we know that we cannot succeed? Also, we must not be afraid to fail. Successful people do fail many times before they achieved success. We should never let the fear of failing keep us from succeeding.

But then again, there is a reality check. Not all our dreams will become reality. Sad to say, but it’s true. Therefore, if that’s the case, why should we bother to pursue our dreams in the first place, only to expose ourselves to heartache should our dreams fail to come to pass. We might as well forget about having dreams and save ourselves from the possibility of disappointment and shattered hopes. However, to do that would be cowardice. Who knows whether or not we’ll achieve our dreams unless we first try, unless we give ourselves and also our dreams a chance? And to give our dreams a chance, we need to have courage.

It takes courage to pursue our dreams, because in the course of pursuing it, we’re bound to face setbacks and failures. We need the courage to face those failures and to keep on trying. And as I’ve said before, not all dreams will be fulfilled. We need great courage to accept that and to move on to pursue and succeed in other endeavors should any of our dreams fail to become reality. To pursue a dream is also to take risks. It is like a gamble. You stake your time, energy and money for the sake of trying to attain your dreams, but in the end, you may or may not win. You risk facing disappointment and broken dreams. But if you do not take the risk at all, you lose one hundred percent the chance of ever winning.

The choice is ours. We could forget about dreams and thus also forgo any possibility of achieving our hearts’ desires. Alternatively, we could give ourselves a chance by working towards our dreams, but not without the price of taking risks and facing possible failure. Courage, together with hope, are vital for a person who wants to achieve his or her dreams. Ultimately, a person who possesses courage and hope, even if he or she first encounters failure, will eventually be a success.

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My great mum-MANO.K

2006-12-08T09:05:00.000+08:00

I am about to embark on a new life which is the life after school. I feel a little bit sad that i'll no longer be in school but life goes on and I have to move on too. I've set certain goals in my life and one of it is to be of service to others. Service above self has been one of my principles in life and I intend to accomplish that goal. My mother whom I really admire. I say this because there is so much to admire about her. Her generosity and love towards others is so amazing. People who step into her house just dont want to leave as there's so much love there. Whenever my family goes there, she will be serving us all kinds of food to eat and she will be bustling to get things done. She also helps the less fortunate people around her. This lady is a fantastic woman and she has been an example to me as well because when we give of yourself and serve others with our best, we will be blessed and most importantly we will feel the joy of being able to help someone. This is her purpose and now I'm making it my purpose. We need to believe that what we give is what we get in return,no matter where or who we are but beneath our heart we will feel peace and calm after helping another human being.What about you ?Start to care for others...

Perfect weekend

2006-12-04T16:52:00.000+08:00

Friday 01/12 0700am
My Malacca Sports Club left for Singapore for the Annual Sports Tournament held every year.
As my club was the defending champion,we lost the 1st match to Penang Sports Club 1-5.The reason:You need hardwork to achieve success.Well,obviously my team did not train and the Penang players was mentally and physically prepared.
You know what i mean!
That night,my losing players went clubbing,had alcohol and party till 4 am.

Saturday 02/12 1530pm
But guess what?We won the 2nd game 2-1 against the home team Singapore which had ex-national player Lim Tong Hai.Infact,we're down 0-1 at half time.
We became the overall champion for that tournament.
So,what's the formula to acheive success?

a)Train hard
b)Drink alcohol
c)Party hard
d)Less rest
e)Luck
f)Motivation of ex national player.

You guys tell me.......

A good sales person

2006-12-04T15:51:00.000+08:00

An Indian moves to Montreal, Canada and goes to a big department store looking for a job.

The manager asks, "Do you have any sales experience?"

The Indian says, "Yeah, I was a salesman back home".
Well, the manager liked the young man, so he gave him the job. "You start tomorrow. I'll come down after we close and see how you did, but let me give you a bit of advice.
If a customer comes looking, say, for toothpaste, you
might suggest for him a toothbrush, or shaving cream etc.

You get the idea?"

"Of course," the young man said. His first day on the job was rough but he got through it.

After the store was locked up, the manager came down. "How many sales did you make today?

The Indian says, "One"

The manager groans, "Just one? Our sales people average 20 or 30 sales/day.
How much was the sale for?"

The Indian says, "$101,237.64."

The manager exclaims, "What? $101,237.64? What did you sell him?"

The Indian replied, "First I sold him a small fish hook. Then I sold him a medium fishhook. Then I sold him a larger fishhook. Then I sold him a new fishing rod. Then I asked him where he was going fishing, and he said down
at the coast, so I told him he was going to need a boat, so we went down to the boat department, and I sold him that twin engine Chris Craft. Then he
said he didn't think his Honda Civic would pull it, so I took him down to the automotive department and sold him that 4X4 Pajero."

The manager says "You mean a guy came in here to buy a fish hook and you sold him a boat and truck?!"

The Indian says, "No, no, no, he came in here to buy a box of Kotex for his wife and I said, "Well, since your weekend's already screwed up you might as well go fishing."

Clear your Monday thoughts...

Spice up your life

2006-11-27T11:21:00.000+08:00

Life is not a dress rehearsal. We have 83,000 seconds per day and we can choose to be happy, depressed or miserable. I choose happy. Here are some tips to bring happiness into your everyday life:
1. Play music.Listen to uplifting music - find a copy of Jimmy Durante's "You gotta start off each day with a smile" - that will make you laugh!
2. Laugh out loudDon't suppress your laughter - make it loud and long.
3. Play with kidsTickle them, play hide and seek - just playing with them will bring you joy. If you don't have your own kids - play with someone else's kids.
4. Cuddle a pet.They give unconditional love and will always come back for more affection.
5. Help someone else.When you are feeling sorry for yourself or sad the best thing you can do is help someone else.
6. Do community or volunteer workIt can be personally very satisfying to assist someone in need.
7. Reflect on flowersBuy yourself some flowers and enjoy the smell and sight of them. My favourites are the pink starburst lilies - they have a wonderful fragrance and last for a week. I like to buy them regularly for my home or put them on my desk.
8. Light fragrant candlesThis will give you something to enjoy - smell is a wonderful sense and we should use it more.
9. Learn to Meditate.Get rid of the negative thoughts and replace them with calm, peaceful thoughts.
10. Buy a Laughter Bag Available from various gift stores these little bags when squeezed giggle - it is contagious and worth every cent. Buy one for your office. I regularly squeezed mine at work and it would make the whole office laugh.
11. Go to a comedy show.See a stand up comedian at your local comedy club.
12. Hire a humorous video or DVD.Someone like Billy Connelly or Bill Cosby. There are some oldies but some goodies that are certain to make your sides split with laughter.
If you are feeling down, choose to be happy. Surround yourself with positive people and try one of these activities.Remember,we live once so live with extreme happiness.

The world is small affair

2006-11-23T14:57:00.000+08:00

Two ghost met and both chat about how they died.

1st ghost : How u died?
2nd ghost : I died of cold
1st ghost : How does it feel when dying in cold?
2nd ghost : Actually i was imprison in refrigerator. At first,i was shivering my whole body started to frozen, later i felt the whole world was dark and i died. Fortunately, i died with not much suffering.
1st ghost : What a pity for you.
2nd ghost : How about you? How you died?
1st ghost : I died of heart attacked.
2nd ghost : I see, how you had a heart attacked?
1st ghost : Actually i found out that my wife is having an affair with another man. One day when i came back from work, I saw a pair of male shoes outside of my house. Then i realized that the guy was in my house with my wife. When i rush into the bedroom, my wife was alone. I must find where that bastard is hiding..so i search the toilet, i ran to downstairs, look in the storeroom, but the bastard was not found. So, I ran upstairs and search the wardrobe, but I found nothing. Because I was too tired of running, I got heart attacked and died.
2nd ghost : Why didn't you look for the bastard in the fridge?
If you did, both of us will be alive now!.

What say you......lol.

Connects the world for free

2006-11-23T12:03:00.000+08:00

Skype is the innovation in technology which allows internet users to use the service to contact anyone around the world via the telephone using the internet. It is virtually free, except for the internet usage cost that is.
This technology has helped millions of people around the world in communicating with one another easily and also cheaper to use compared to using the telephone or handphone. What you need is an internet connection and a microphone and earpiece.
Governments, companies and even the public should take advantage of this new technology since it is cost effective and could ensure a faster and effective communication.
To register just go to : www.skype.com and you are ready to talk to anyone...

Malaysian culture good or bad

2006-11-18T15:43:00.000+08:00

At 815 last night,my house electricity power cable got treeped when i was watching the news on
Mongolian model fiesta.Went out and confirm it was only my house so while me and my bro was trying to some magic tricks where we took out the extension cable wires and made a cross entry to another cable.waallllla...it works..ofcoz for temporary guys.

But the one thing that trills me,there were group of neighbours standing in front my house.To my suprise ohh we do have Malaysian people who cares about the society.....but hang on guys!
The 1st phrase came out from them was "WHY DIDN'T YOU PAY YOUR BILLS"

GOSH!fool of me!For a second i was fortunate to be born as Malaysian but there goes my views.

Well my fellow Malaysian out there.....Any comment?

Born of a new blogger

2006-11-17T15:46:00.000+08:00

All this while i've heard and commented about the world of bloging from people around me but my reaction was simple:????????????ohhhwhtever!

But today i was born as new blogger by my colleaque Jay. It was a strike of amaze what tis 4 letter words can change the way we connecting to people.

We spent nearly half day of our work re-engineering my profile view...is that cool or wht?
Jay....Thanks man!

So,it's almost an hour more before i knock off from office....let me do some work that is what i've been paid.......Welcome me with open arms.