All we need is LOVE!

All we need is love, the Beatles told us. But in my experience giving and receiving the quality of love we desire is a darned hard thing. Why is that?Perhaps it is because to get the love we need we have to honestly present ourselves to the world. How can someone give you the kind of love you need if your present a false picture of yourself to them? If you can’t show the world who you truly are then all you can do is hope that someone will provide the kind of love you need by accident. Consequently the quality of love you receive may directly correlate to your ability to be vulnerable with other people.And of course it is darned hard to be vulnerable. Most of us arrived as adults by becoming actors of our own lives. It often reaches the point where even we get confused and find it difficult to tell if the version of ourselves that we present to the world is fake or the genuine article.I have a friend who wants someone find someone that totally “gets” her. Some part of me thinks that waiting around for this person is a lot like waiting for God. At best you can hope that some combination of people will “get” you in divergent ways where you feel this appreciation and love. But sometimes I run across couples who truly seem to me to be so well integrated that I tend to put aside my skepticism and think “These two people are soul mates. They were meant to be together.” So alas, im back at square one, confusion...confusion...confusion...As small children, we all have an image of our ideal man/woman....what he/she looks like, how he/she talks, and how he /she expresses and conducts himself. You think you will meet him/her, experience love at first sight, and be swept off your feet. When the day comes and you find yourself goosebumps in love with that special someone, he/she nothing like the person you imagined. While he/she isn't the Prince Charming/Prince Diana...oops! you've always dreamed about, but it worth giving a chance to explore much more. It is so amazing that the one person you have been looking for is unlike anything in your childhood dreams. Is it because our childhood thoughts are a mere reflection of society's vision of the perfect love or possibly a wish to fulfill the fairy tales.We have been force-fed since birth? Mabe it's time we rethink those reflection and emphasize our culture places on them. The truth of the matter is that love finds you when you least expect it, in the most unlikely places at a time when love is the farthest thing from your mind. And the person you fall in love with is the one you feel an inexplicable connection with, an indescribable desire to be with, not some preconceived notion of perfection.Perfection becomes what you see in your mate, both strengths and weaknesses, and you realize that the ideal man/woman the person who gives you everything....heart and soul and teaches you how to love not only him/her but yourself as well.GOT IT!